5 ways to support a loved one who is grieving this Christmas
Christmas is, for most, a time of celebration and joy spent with friends and family. But for those who have lost a loved one, it can be a period surrounded by sadness and absence, rather than festivity. In this blog, we’ll offer tips to help you support someone who may be experiencing grief this Christmas.
1. Acknowledge their Grief
It’s natural to feel uncertain about bringing up a sensitive topic like grief, and avoiding it can seem easier. However, staying silent can make the person grieving feel more isolated and upset. Instead, you should acknowledge their loss and let them know you’re there to support them throughout this difficult time. This can be very comforting and validating for the person.
2. Offer your Presence
Sometimes, the most meaningful support you can offer is simply your presence. Being there with them, whether for a walk, a coffee, or just to sit quietly together, can provide comfort beyond words. You don’t need to fill the silence with conversation or try to distract them; sometimes, the act of quietly sharing space can help ease their sense of loneliness. You should allow them to lead the way in deciding what feels right—respect their need for solitude when they want it, but gently remind them they’re not alone.
3. Provide Practical Support
Greif can be very exhausting and the added pressure of Christmas preparations can make everything even more overwhelming. Tasks like shopping for gifts, preparing meals or decorating may remind them of the loved one they’ve lost. Offering to help with these jobs can provide much needed relief, allowing them to focus on healing while still participating in the Christmas season.
4. Support their Choices
It is important to understand that everyone experiencing grief will handle Christmas in their own way. They may not feel like joining in Christmas activities or perhaps just want to the skip the day entirely. Try not to feel disappointed by this, grief is personal and their needs may evolve in time. For now, the most supportive thing you can do is to respect their choices and how they decide to get through the season.
5. Assist with Additional Support
If they’re finding it particularly tough, you could suggest connecting them with professional help. Numerous services are available, including At a Loss, a charity specialising in bereavement support. They offer counselling and other services across the UK to support those coping with the loss of a loved one. At a Loss is the UK’s award-winning signposting and information service for bereavement support.
